Ready For The Next Decade?

There are many blog posts, articles, videos, social posts and emails about doing a review of the past decade and preparing for the next. I've been finding it all a bit overwhelming. The holidays are a great time of year to review the past year and prepare for the next. I've been obsessed with goal setting and 3-5 year plans for over a decade.
What if.....instead of doing the same thing at the end of this decade, we did something completely different?

What if we focused on gratitude first and then designing our lives based on our passions, our dreams and our deepest desires?

You with me?

Let's keep things simple with a three part process.

Part 1:
First, we build our foundation of gratitude. Here's what I suggest. I do think it's important to look back at the past decade with a lens of gratitude. How do we do this?

Start back in 2010. Find one event, person or activity that you are most grateful for. That's easy for me: I am truly grateful that our daughter was born.

Next, choose an event, person or activity that presented a challenge or difficulty and also write it as though you were grateful for it. I am truly grateful that my daughter was born more than 3 weeks early, and taking care of her for those first few months was really, really hard. I can actually look back with gratitude at this time. I didn't have to be pregnant for a full 39 or 40+ weeks. My family and friends came together to support us. My parents stayed with us for the first 5 weeks of her life.

There is much to be grateful now that I have the gift of perspective and space from that moment in time.

Repeat this for each year in the decade.
baby in a blanket

Part 2:
Be. Do. Have.
This is one of my favorite activities! It's a great way to find clarity and figure out what it is you really want.
You can do this in a notebook, or on a bristol board or large Post-It Note to put up on the wall when you've finished this activity.

Here's how it works: turn your paper landscape (long edge up) and divide into three columns.

  • What do I want to DO?
  • Who do I want to BE?
  • What do I want to HAVE?

Ask yourself these questions, out loud, and write down your answers (unedited). Keep moving between the columns until you're done. You'll know when you're done. You might not finish the page or maybe you'll need a second one.

Some of the things I wrote down when I did this exercise last month include:
BE: A kind, loving and grateful woman.
DO: Inspire my daughter to grow up to be the best version of herself
HAVE: Relationships that are strong, loving & reciprocal with my family and friends.

I've posted mine in my bedroom, by the door so that I notice it every time I walk out of the room.

Part 3:
Creating the future.

My favorite way to design the future is to write it in the present tense. That doesn't make any sense, does it? Here's what I do:
Imagine it's New Year's Eve, one year from now. Looking back on the year that has passed, what are you grateful for. Write it in the present tense, as if it's already happened. For example, when my family and I were looking to make the move from Ontario to British Columbia two years ago, my husband and I wrote our New Year's statement together. 
We are so happy and grateful to be living in Walnut Grove, Langley BC. We celebrated Christmas with my family in BC. Our dog Mouse, a Nova Scotia Duck Tolling Retriever, joined our family when we moved. Dan is loving his new job and Céline is happy in her new school.  

three people at the airport
If you know our story, you'll remember that most of this came true before the end of that year. Once we wrote out the story, I had it on my bedside as a reminder of what we were working towards and creating together in 2017. 
There you have it! A fairly simple 3-part process to reflect on the past decade and prepare for the next one. 
Would you like to go through this process together? I'm hosting an online workshop on Thursday Jan 2nd from 10 am - noon PST (1 pm - 3 pm EST). Grab your spot here:

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